“You Complete Me”

I was reminded of this cliche phrase recently.  It is often repeated both in romantic media and by real life couples.  Not only is it frequently said, it is always said in a positive tone, that this sentiment is a goal worth aspiring to.

I couldn’t disagree more.

The sentiment behind this phrase is tied up in our cultures belief that love is a necessary component of every person’s life.  Until you find your soul mate, you are left “incomplete.”  This completely disregards your successes as an individual.  You could win the Nobel prize, and you’d still not be complete without love.

And then what about those of us who find love then lose it (for whatever reason)?  Would we become incomplete again?  Our state of being would be constantly in flux over the course of our lives, right up to the end.  This doesn’t seem like a very productive line of thinking.

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